To love without knowing how to love, wounds the person we love.
True love contains respect. If you are motivated by some desire, that is not love. Desire is not love. Love is something much more responsible. It has care in it. True love includes the sense of responsibility, accepting the other person as he is, with all his strengths and weaknesses. If we like only the best things in the person, that is not love. We have to accept his weaknesses and bring our patience, understanding, and energy to help him transform. Love is maitri, the capacity to bring joy and happiness, and karuna, the capacity to transform pain and suffering. This kind of love can only be good for people. It cannot be described as negative or destructive. It is safe. It guarantees everything. ~Thich Nhat Hanh