Sometimes relationships can seem like a lot of work until you sit back and realize just how much you’ve been given. A thriving, healthy relationship requires some give and take, and is absolutely within your reach if you and your partner are willing to do a bit of work. If you and your partner are right for each other, all the work will definitely be worth it in the long run.
Part 1 of 2: Things You Must Do Independently
1. Take responsibility for your own happiness. Save yourself several hours of arguing by remembering this one rule: it’s not up to anyone else to make you happy. In a relationship your partner will try to please you and make you happy but in the end you are responsible for your happiness.
2. Make good on your words. Follow through on your promises. When you say you’re going to do something, do it. Don’t say that you’ll cook dinner, or get a birthday present, and then blow it off or simply forget about it. What this does is systematically destroy trust. And relationships need trust in order to thrive.
3.Admit your mistakes. If you know you’ve done something to hurt your partner, intentionally or not, own up to it. Humble yourself and apologize sincerely, without making excuses or justifications like “I’m sorry you made me angry.”
Commit to changing your behavior. If you notice yourself apologizing for the same mistake over and over, step it up a level. Tell your partner that you recognize this mistake keeps happening, and you want to train yourself to stop. Request help and ask for him or her to gently point it out to you when you’re making this mistake again.
4. Be realistic. Every relationship has disagreements and days when staying isn’t the easiest choice. But what makes a relationship healthy is choosing to resolve those problems and push through the hard days, instead of just letting issues and resentment fester. (more…)
My little brother made me the best vegan sandwich today. ~Jendhamuni
Be honest: How often do you eat your veggies? If you’re like most adults, you could probably stand to consume more of them. In a 2013 CDC report, 22.6% of adults confessed to eating vegetables less than once a day. However, the USDA recommends that adults up to age 50 have 2 ½ cups (women) or 3 cups (men) per day—and even more for those who exercise more than 30 minutes a day.
Boost your own veggie intake by starting with a sandwich makeover. You might think you need meat to complete those bread slices, but vegetables pack more vitamins and minerals to help your body stay strong. These eight tasty creations are proof enough.
Materialistic items aren’t the main focus of life, they have so much importance in the modern world that it is difficult to realise how little these items mean. We do not need to have everything to live a happy and fulfilling life. Society is dictated through media advertisement giving false information on how to move forward as a society. God does not ask us to have these items of luxury. Living a more frugal existence doesn’t mean that you go without the basic needs; it just addresses the need for items that are unnecessary.
Their inner qualities will shine through the mortal being of a person. The question of beauty will hold little or no meaning. Yet making sure that you take care of yourself is not being vain; it is a way to ensure that you are able to give more, your own health is just as important.
The growing of a soul comes from cultivation, learning that you are not only doing what you think to be true but believing from your inner most sanctums that you serve others and receive more from this work than from materialistic items.
In order to live in the moment, you need to focus on the now. Focus on what you’re doing. Shut off the TV, turn off the computer, slow down and savor the present.
Jay Dixit, who is the senior editor of Psychology Today, refers to this as mindfulness, or being with your thoughts as they are. According to Dixit, living for the moment by practicing mindfulness reduces stress, boosts your immune system, lowers blood pressure and has other beneficial physical and mental effects. Dixit adds that mindful people are more secure, have higher self-esteem and are happier.
According to Sonja Lyubomirsky, Ph.D., psychologist and educator at the University of California at Riverside and author of The How of Happiness, savoring or relishing life in the moment — whether it’s eating a meal, drinking a cup of coffee or walking to the store — elicits happiness and other positive emotions.
2. Pay attention to the small things
Notice the world around you: the small things. Be thankful for them. Living for the moment and taking notice of the small things will help you cultivate more positive experiences.
Cheryl Rainfield, an artist and writer, recommends you pay attention to the little things that make you happy, like eating ice cream, blowing bubbles or listening to music, as these things can make a huge difference in how you feel.
If you want to know how to live in the moment, you just have to take a look in the mirror and smile. Smile — it can influence how you feel.
Scientific American Mind magazine reports that making an emotional face influences how we feel. The magazine adds that there is an association in our mind between how we feel and how we react. If we feel happy, we smile. If we smile, it makes us feel happy. Our face communicates our state of mind to others and to ourselves. So smile — it will make you happier and help you appreciate life in the moment.
4. Perform random acts of kindness
Random acts of kindness, those selfless acts that help others, help you live for the moment of making others smile, and making you smile as well. Random acts of kindness are just that—random. They are spontaneous, in the moment and a great addition to your daily life.
The next time you see that person walking in the rain, offer them your umbrella. That stranded motorist? Call for help. The elderly lady struggling with her groceries? Carry them for her. One of the easiest lessons for how to live in the moment is to do something for someone else without expecting anything in return. It not only helps you live in the moment, but improves that moment for you and someone else.
5. Give thanks
Be thankful. Sounds easy, doesn’t it? But it isn’t always. It doesn’t have to be Thanksgiving for you to feel grateful and express that gratitude.
Every now and then, remember to stop and take stock of just how good you have it. When your friend makes you smile, thank her for being in your life. When your boss gives you a new task, say thanks, remembering that you still have a job and can put food on the table. When you think it or feel it, say it right then. Live in the moment by expressing your gratitude when you feel it.
6. Don’t worry
It’s much harder than it sounds, but try to remember that worrying today won’t change what happens tomorrow. Every second you spend in worry about the future is a second of the present wasted. Because worrying takes you out of this moment and transports you into the realm of future possibilities, it’s impossible to live in the moment and worry at the same time.
Instead, if circumstances are troubling, focus on ways you can solve an existing problem now or otherwise improve the current moment. Spending time focused on what may happen down the line robs you of fully experiencing what is happening now. Life in the moment moves quickly — don’t miss it.
There are 22 different minerals that are important in human nutrition. Minerals and vitamins function as components of body enzymes, often needed for proper composition of bone, blood, and maintenance of normal cell function.
In plants, most minerals are complexed with organic molecules which means that you get better mineral absorption when you consume fruits and vegetables.
One of the most powerful but often times overlooked mineral is magnesium. Magnesium is needed for more than 300 biochemical reactions in the body. You’ll be surprised at the benefits magnesium provides.
Below is a chart of the recommended dietary allowance for magnesium for adults and children according to National Institutes of Health, Office of Dietary Supplements.
5 Benefits of Magnesium:
1. Magnesium may reverse osteoporosis
Multiple research studies conducted have suggested that calcium supplemented with magnesium improves bone mineral density. Magnesium deficiency alters calcium metabolism and the hormones that regulate calcium, resulting in osteoporosis. Intake of recommended levels of magnesium is important because it averts osteoporosis.
2. Magnesium prevents cardiovascular diseases
One of the most important benefits of magnesium is that it is associated with lowering the risk of coronary heart diseases. Dietary surveys have suggested that sufficient magnesium intake may reduce the chance of having a stroke. Magnesium deficiency increases the risk of abnormal heart rhythms, which increases the risk of complications after a heart attack. Therefore, consuming recommended amounts of magnesium dietary supplements may be beneficial to the cardiovascular system. (more…)